In that subjective character is where the strength of beliefs in human beings. If you can create the belief in yourself that you are not worth anything, the product of irrational conclusions or bad experiences, you can also create the belief that you “are worth a lot” of rational, but subjectively motivated conclusions.
It is the same mechanism but in reverse. It will all depend on your level of persistence in making that positive belief the focus of attention no matter the circumstances in which you find yourself and so much doubt try to stop that effort in you. Remember, self-deception produces positive results as well, but the rest, those around you will discover their existence because your actions will not coincide with inflated self-esteem.
If we take all these examples we conclude that we have been the most relentless critics against ourselves when judging some of the “negative aspects” in terms of feelings, sensations, perceptions and behaviors that from our point of view are the reasons for the feelings of insecurity, personal dissatisfaction and loss of confidence that exists in ourselves, where the lack of belief in ourselves is only part of the problem. We do not believe in ourselves because we do not trust ourselves or vice versa.
What are the reasons why we do not believe in people? When there is a difference between what a person says and what you do. What are the reasons why we do not believe in ourselves? When our expectations (physical, emotional, intellectual, social, personal, economic, cultural, etc.) do not coincide with the results expected by us from ourselves, but also from people who matter to us.
One of the great difference between the rest and yourself is that others are not indispensable to you, you can throw it aside, contrary to yourself, where you can not throw aside that part of you that you do not believe , because you and that supposed part of you that embarrasses you, responsible for all your problems that is part of yourself as well. If you can not divorce yourself (using a figurative term) you are calling to pass with that aspect of yourself that you stopped believing or that you no longer trust.
When you say “I did not trust myself or I do not believe in myself” who are you talking about? Of you as a whole? or are you just referring to those behaviors that do not fulfill your expectations? What was the role of the accuser who exists in you in all this? Who made the decision to not believe you or stopped trusting you? Why are opinions and ratings of others above your own?
What are the reasons behind that perfectionist attitude, the fanciful demands of a level of morality, ethics, intelligence, qualities and mental and physical above your human condition that no one can reach? If you find the answers to each of these questions perhaps you will understand the origin of some of your mental conflicts.
The expressions “I do not believe in me” or “I did not trust myself” only exist in your mind, they are the slogan of an internal struggle that you only know and how it affects you.It is a fight that only you are fighting in your mind, and no one outside of you cares about the outcome.Whatever your strategy for winning that fight will depend on you not on anyone else, because you are the attacker, you are the one who defends, and you are the referee.
The lack of confidence, doubt, self-recrimination, and unrealistic expectations are the public who with their applause constantly maintain and encourage this confrontation in your mind, confrontation that you have the power to end up fighting in favor of the expression “I believe in myself, “because in your mind you are the arbiter, owner and creator of your thoughts.