How to talk to your depression?At first glance it seems a simple title for such a complex mental illness. I am not talking about the depression that others may or may not suffer. I am talking about the physical and emotional problems that this illness has produced in the course of my life. That means that the title should be “How to talk to my depression?”
It would not be fair to speak of depression, without mentioning that faithful companion who in many cases joins this emotional illness as a complication that is behind all our fears, hesitation and fears known popularly as anxiety.
How can we talk to a mental illness that limits our life?
My answer would be that each of us knows the moment when depression speaks to us through its symptoms. In my particular case I will tell of some of the ways the depression speaks to me:
1. Loss of interest in things.
2. Lack of sleep at night.
3. constant desire to cry.
4. Feelings that we are not worth.
5. Irrational fears or apprehension.
6. Obsessive thinking of abandonment ‘
7. Personal neglect.
8. Change in our temperaments o moods.
9. Tiredness without reason.
10. Not make decisions.
12. Sadness without apparent reason.
13. Recurring physical problems.
14. Loss of hope.
15. Negative self-criticism.
16. The desire to end with our life.
17. Loss of appetite.
18. Feeling guilty.
20. Feeling of shame.
Although I stopped listing on this 20 symptoms associated with my depression, I must admit that I may suffer from other symptoms that up to this point is not meant to include it, but which some of you may name. Because we all know that one of the great things about depression is the way it controls our attitudes and how we look at ourselves.
“In a few words, as a depressive person I learns to deceive myself, but also those around me.”
For a long time due to the devastating effects of this emotional illness I was under several psychiatric treatments taking many of the medicines that are sold in the market by medical prescription.
Apart from taking these medications to manage my depression and anxiety. I also had appointments every 2 weeks with a behavior specialist who through exercises, meeting with support groups and cognitive therapy tried to help with my problems.
Specialist in behavior who was trying to teach me some modification technique as a way to control my pessimistic thoughts and lack of interest in some aspects of my life.
adding to all that, I should mention the medication I took, off the counter as a way to self medicate me, reading any book, magazine or program that will help me control these symptoms, church group meetings as a way to keep my mind occupied. As some say trying to fix myself.
However, like many people with emotional problems I fall into the mistake of believing that depression is my unwillingness to do things, when it is something much deeper than that. Do not fall into that trap.
Why do I like to talk to my depression?
From my point of view and taking from my personal experience, depression has always been part of life and may always be. For me that is a fact. Although I may be wrong. The moment we accept depression as part of our life we understand many of the symptoms that are associated with it.
I have the opinion that one way to control a mental illness like depression is to recognize the symptoms, as a way of being able to treat it, and to diminish its effects to create a long-term strategy that diminishes the intensity and frequency of these.
“I must clarify that all types of depression due to some chemical or Hormone imbalance (after childbirth or the presence of a devastating disease) the symptoms deserve a different attention.” Reasons why I’m only concentrating on my depression.
Some human behavior professionals came to the conclusion that if we have the ability to describe our symptoms, we also have the ability to identify the source of those symptoms. In many cases a present illness is the reason for them, therefore we have to learn to make a difference between the disease we have and ourselves.
Take as examples the sadness to understand what I am talking about. If as a result of a loss, whatever it may be we are sad that part of the human condition. The intensity and duration will depend on the importance it has for you that loss.
But when we feel sad without a reason to justify this emotion, in many cases we are facing a symptom of depression. Depression is trying to say something to us and sadness is how it speaks to us. This is a good opportunity to communicate with our depression.
Why does our body use depression to talk to us?
This is where our capacity for differentiation goes into effects to have some control of our depression. Are we really sad or is our sadness a symptom of our depression? What is the difference between a real and an unreal emotion? Any. Both can produce the same physical and emotional effect.
It does not matter that so many of us believe we know or control everything. Our body has its way of telling us how we are treating it and who really is in control. Depression is a way as our body makes us know that we fail to fulfill the needs that our body always demands..
“The physical needs that we have replaced by mental needs imposed by others or learned by us have nothing to do with what we seek as human beings. Our body lets us know at every moment of the terrible decision” against our own needs we have made.
From my point of view, depression is nothing more than the lack of connection between what the body wants and what the mind wants. Anxiety is the energy that comes out of this conflict. Our job is to reconnect with the needs of our body that we want to regain the emotional balance we have lost.
Our change of attitudes, as we speak to our body and the mental strategy we use is the way to achieve this connection, between our mind and our body.
When you talk to your depression you are talking to your body. When you recognize the symptoms of your depression is because your body is trying to say something. It depends on you to hear your body. It is your decision to respond to the complaints of your body.
Depending on the answers, interest, care, love, perseverance and the way you talk to your body will depend on the control you have over the symptoms that emotionally or physically overwhelm you in your daily life, because between you and your body there is no difference, both are the same.
Always keep something in your mind, your body is not at the service of your mind is the opposite, your mind is at the service of your body. Your mental ability to perceive emotions does not put you on top the anything in this case It is your body that is always in control, you perceive it, not not.
In my case, when I feel sad? I do not let this sadness control every aspect of my life. I’ll explain why! I share my sadness with others as a form of relief and acceptance of how I feel at that time.
I accept it as an emotional reaction of my body for not having heard it in the past. Something I should have done and did not do or something that should not have and I did, it is a feeling that our body never lets go. Our body has an easy way to communicate with us and let us know when we have failed.
It is never too late to recognize that we are at the service of our body, not what we have been taught by those who regard our bodies as the source of all our problems, when it is the opposite.
Our negative mental attitudes against all that you are represented in our impulses, desires and emotions are the reasons for many of the mental problems we all suffer at the moment, because we stop listening to the language of our body.